'A perfect Love Story or a A perfect Relationship' Does it Exist? By Funmi Shittu

The notion called a ‘perfect relationship’ or a 'perfect love story'. 

Does it exist? Is it a make believe and if it does, how come it seems to be working for some and not others. We live in a society that encourages the concept that ‘perfection’ exists. Everyone sets a standard for the kind of relationship they want and some have it in their head that a perfect relationship is possible and does exist.

While it is healthy to set standards and have it ringing in your head that a perfect relationship is possible, be careful not to get carried away that you refuse to accept the imperfections and flaws of the person standing before you.

Hence, where do we draw the line in it all? How do we know what is healthy in a relationship or marriage. What should I tolerate in my relationship or my marriage, what should I encourage and what should I walk away from? (note it is wisdom never to stay in an abusive relationship or marriage just because you are trying to create a make believe).

Nonetheless, I believe there is no such thing as a perfect relationship or marriage but there is a perfect love story peculiar to each relationship and every marriage.  

Just the same way you cannot have a perfect friendship with your friends, besties and buddies because of their different upbringing, behavioural attitudes and character differences, likewise in a romantic relationship.

The fact is perfection means excellence and flawlessness. Now tell me, how is it possible to have a faultless or spotless relationship? You must realise your marriage or relationship is different and unique from everyone else, yes they may be similarities in what couples go through but never compare your marriage or relationship with others because of what you see them do.

For example a couple might like kissing a lot in public and you can see that and say awwww “ They are so cute together” or say what a perfect couple made for each other’ and before you know it, you start getting upset because your husband does not like kissing you in public. 

This does not even make their marriage sweeter or juicer than yours. While it is okay to admire other couples, never start comparing theirs to what you have. This can steal your happiness and possible damage a good relationship. Spend time to focus and build yours and strive for a healthy and balanced relationship. 

There is never a perfect love story as we are all different human beings but when you find the one worth holding onto, love it, guard it, nurture and protect it. 

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