So you want to get married? On Whose terms? Yours or God?? Part One #Series5

It might be shocking for you to know that after Jesus Christ explained the meaning of what marriage should be to his disciples their response was; “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry”….(Matthew 19: 3-10).

The meaning of marriage or what marriage should be as an institution by God is different from what we accept marriage to be. For instance God’s foundation for marriage is based on unbended rules and it is created for a purpose. As a matter of fact God’s purpose for marriage is to produce seeds that will be sanctified and righteous, but for us we base it on romance, fantasy, roses, dinner, great sex, great curves, six packs and candle lights just to name a few.

Most men and women will say, I want a man who will be loving and caring, while these are secondary, your primary reason should be to discover who you are as a woman. As a woman you are a helper, who is capable of helping a man (Gen 2:18).

Likewise, a man of a purpose is busy, he is already doing something but he needs help…..marriage comes into the life of a man when the man is in need of help. Please note this, Eve came into the life of Adam not because Adam is lonely but because Adam was alone. Adam was already working the ground, busy naming all the animals, gardening and all sorts.

God looked at him and said it is not good for him to be alone because God looked at every other creature He created, male and female He created them all, apart from Adam (who did not have the opposite sex or a female).

Know this, it is the desire of God that Adam should multiply but without a female Adam couldn’t multiply, hence it wasn’t good for Him to be alone.

The precepts of what marriage is from the beginning should influence how we choose who we want to spend the rest of our lives with, basically the man should be in the right position and in a place of provision for the woman to come in.

These are the foundation that should be in place before marriage comes in. However, just because you need a man in a place of provision doesn’t mean you must marry a man with a massive house or a massive car…I love the way Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo puts this in his interview with the sunnewsonline.com “you need a guy who has something upstairs and who knows where he is going. In fact, if I were a woman, I will not ask what car you drive, I will ask where are you going”?

(To be continued)......

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