So You Want To Get Married! ARE YOU A VIRTUOUS WOMAN? #SYWTGM #SERIES4

So many women, ladies and young girls want to get married and settle down with that chosen one, who is handsome, rich, charming, and possibly a God-fearing man or woman. While this is good and part of God’s plan for our lives to fulfil our destiny and multiply accordingly. One of the questions we must ask ourselves is this simple question...

"Am I going to be a helpmate or a liability to my spouse or a woman with a purpose"?

The purpose here refers to that which God intends for every woman to be "The Virtuous Woman". The virtuous woman is not a myth and doesn't happen overnight. However, it is attainable and stems from a woman who walks in the will, purpose and instructions of God.

                

Specifically, I am talking about the ‘Proverbs 31 Woman’. A role model to be emulated by this generation and set aside to be a helper to her spouse. While it is the duty of the man to provide for his household (1Tim 5:8). The bible calls the husband the head and makes it clear here:

"But if a man does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and he is worse than an unbeliever".

While this is established, we must now look closely the duties of the woman as a helpmate, a helper and not a liability. "A virtuous woman is a woman of excellence, it’s funny because a lot of people want what she has but very few people can do what she does daily”.

She is behind an extraordinary man! Look at the virtuous woman in the bible, while her husband is very popular amongst the elders at the gate, she is also an investor, she's not just a wife but she is loaded to the core! Basically, she's got money and she is called blessed by her children (Proverbs 31:28-31). WOW!

Now, that is a blessing, you don't demand it, but you earn it!

She brings stuff to the table and she’s a biblical hustler in every sense and a business woman! Her hands are blessed and always looking for ways to be a blessing to her household. (Proverbs 31:13) “She looks for wool and flax and works with her hands in delight”.

She's not just somewhere thinking and looking at herself in the mirror with her Brazilian hair saying to herself, I am HOT in fact too hot and if any man wants me, he must be this and must be that…..

Instead, her beauty stems from her innermost and not just the outer appearance ("Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewellery and fine clothes") 1 peter 3:3. If as a woman you are seeking the heart of a king you must also be a Queen.

I do believe every rich man out there is probably seeking and searching for the heart of a queen. A queen here is not necessarily a queen by title, but there must be something unique and special about you that stands you out. There is more to being a woman, a virtuous woman brings out the king in her husband.

When a King and a Queen come together, such combinations do not just make babies, but they create a kingdom and they don't just raise children but they raise a nation....! A wise King understands the symbolic meaning of a crown and the bible refers to the woman as the crown, (A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown) Proverbs 12:4, in a nutshell, a crown cannot exist without a King and likewise a king needs the CROWN to lead as a King. A virtuous woman is not actually looking for an extraordinary man! Instead, she turns an ordinary man into and extraordinary man!

Believe that God has made you a success to the man that marries you and trust that whatever you touch turns to gold. A virtuous woman is not just a role model with millions of followers on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram but she is raising a nation after she is gone and building a respected legacy.

Get busy in your purpose, be purpose driven and build yourself as a woman. If you need to get a degree, it's never too late. Whether you are a single mother or even a teenage mother, or maybe you are even 45years old plus, no matter the circumstances you find yourself in. If you need to start a business, start it now, no matter how small your capital is or you may even need to invest in your talent, whatever the case may be just do it!

Empower yourself and become an asset to your spouse not a liability. Be the woman God has called you to be in every sense! 

As I speak to you young lady, single woman, married or divorced out there, I also speak to myself.

Pursue the woman God has called you to be.

You are a VIRTUOUS WOMAN!