The notion
called a ‘perfect relationship’ or a 'perfect love story'.
Does it
exist? Is it a make believe and if it does, how come it seems to be working for
some and not others. We live in a society that encourages the concept that ‘perfection’
exists. Everyone sets a standard for the kind of relationship they want and
some have it in their head that a perfect relationship is possible and
does exist.
While it is
healthy to set standards and have it ringing in your head that a perfect
relationship is possible, be careful not to get carried away that you refuse to
accept the imperfections and flaws of the person standing before you.
Hence, where
do we draw the line in it all? How do we know what is healthy in a relationship
or marriage. What should I tolerate in my relationship or my marriage, what
should I encourage and what should I walk away from? (note it is wisdom never to stay in an
abusive relationship or marriage just because you are trying to create a make
believe).
Nonetheless, I believe there is no such thing as a perfect relationship or marriage but
there is a perfect love story peculiar to each relationship and every marriage.
Just the same way you cannot have a perfect
friendship with your friends, besties and buddies because of their different
upbringing, behavioural attitudes and character differences, likewise in a
romantic relationship.
The fact is
perfection means excellence and flawlessness. Now tell me, how is it possible
to have a faultless or spotless relationship? You must realise your marriage or
relationship is different and unique from everyone else, yes they may be
similarities in what couples go through but never compare your marriage or relationship
with others because of what you see them do.
For example
a couple might like kissing a lot in public and you can see that and say awwww “ They
are so cute together” or say what a perfect couple made for each
other’ and before you know it, you start getting upset because your husband does not like
kissing you in public.
This does not even make their marriage sweeter or
juicer than yours. While it is okay to admire other couples, never start comparing
theirs to what you have. This can steal your happiness and possible damage a good
relationship. Spend time to focus and build yours and strive for a healthy and
balanced relationship.
There is never a perfect love story as we
are all different human beings but when you find the one worth holding onto,
love it, guard it, nurture and protect it.
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